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“You’re the worst Mom!” “You never do anything nice for me!” “I hate you!” All parents have heard these phrases or some version of them at some point in their parenting journey, and if you haven’t, don’t worry, it’s coming. The good news is you will be prepared with a response, thanks to Dr. Terry!

In this episode, we unpack the underlying reasons behind a child’s expression of anger, shed light on the emotions and dynamics at play during such instances, and offer practical advice for parents navigating this challenging terrain.

The words “I hate you” from your child can be incredibly hurtful and distressing. However, it’s important to recognize this outburst is often a manifestation of deeper feelings and frustrations your child may not have the language or maturity to express in a more constructive manner.

Children often resort to using extreme language when they feel overwhelmed or powerless. By saying “I hate you,” they are attempting to assert some control over their environment or express their dissatisfaction with a situation. It is crucial for parents to remember these words are not a reflection of their actual feelings toward their parents but rather a reflection of their current emotional state.

Children may feel unheard or invalidated, leading to a sense of anger and resentment. It is crucial for parents to create a safe and open space for their children to express their emotions and concerns, ensuring they feel valued and understood.

To address these challenging situations, it’s important to practice regulating your own emotions first, practice active listening, validate your child’s emotions, and engage in empathetic conversations. By demonstrating genuine care and concern, parents can build trust and strengthen their relationship with their child.

It’s not about letting them “roll all over you” or allowing them to be rude, but rather it’s the parent’s responsibility to set clear boundaries and expectations while also allowing room for negotiation and compromise. By involving children in decision-making processes and giving them a sense of agency, parents can foster a more harmonious and respectful dynamic within the family.

By fostering a safe and open environment for their children to express their emotions, parents can build stronger, more resilient relationships with their children. Remember, behind the words “I hate you” lies a world of unexpressed emotions and a call for understanding and connection.

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